Stanley’s Story

Domestic abuse affects people of all genders and sexualities. But for many LGBTQ+ individuals, those experiences are still too often misunderstood or silenced. At Next Chapter, we see this first hand. Abuse doesn’t always look the same and for LGBTQ+ survivors, it can come with additional layers of complexity. That’s why our doors are open to anyone who needs support.

Listening to survivors is at the heart of what we do. It takes immense courage to speak out. People share their stories not just for themselves, but for others who may not yet realise help is available. Representation matters, when people see themselves reflected, they’re more likely to reach out.

Stanley’s Story

In 2026, Stanley*(name changed to protect his identity) was referred to Next Chapter by his caseworker. As a trans man, he had reached a point where he needed to escape the abuse he was experiencing.

Stanley endured psychological abuse that targeted his identity. His gender was used against him, harmful comments were made, such as telling him he would “never be a man” and that he would “always have a girl’s body”. Words like these can have a profound impact. They undermine confidence and distort self-worth. Reflecting on his experience, Stanley shared:

“A lot of people take advantage of people who identify as trans, especially when they’re still figuring things out…They try to push boundaries or explore parts of you that you’re not comfortable with.”

His words highlight a painful reality, vulnerability is often exploited. Abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships can involve control, coercion and manipulation linked to identity, making it even harder to recognise.

Eventually, Stanley made the incredibly difficult decision to leave. He stepped away from everything familiar and moved into our dispersed housing, beginning his journey towards safety and recovery.

When he arrived, Stanley wasn’t just carrying the trauma of abuse. Like many survivors, he had turned to substances to cope. He described those first moments with us as: “A mixture of emotions…I felt like I was finally free, finally safe. But there was also fear, because I was taking myself away from the comfort of my life.”

That combination of relief and fear is something many survivors experience. Leaving abuse isn’t just about escaping harm, it’s about rebuilding a life from the ground up.

Starting some where new is daunting. But with support from his practitioner, Stanley told us his experience has been “amazing” and “My needs are met and I feel like my character is understood. They take the time to understand my mental health as well. It’s been hard and there are a lot of ups and downs, but I speak out when I’m having bad times.”

Our practitioners work alongside each person to build safety plans, offer guidance and provide support on both good days and difficult ones. We want every survivor to feel heard and empowered to be themselves.

Stanley shared that this support has helped him reconnect with who he is “It’s helped me realise who I am.”

A key part of Stanley’s recovery has been having his own safe, private space. Through our dispersed housing, he has a self-contained flat where he can feel secure and begin to rebuild.

We’ve also supported him with practical steps, including helping with legal documentation to change his name, advocating for his rights and putting plans in place to support him through challenging moments.

Reflecting on his journey, Stanley told us he is most proud of his sobriety: “Sitting with my emotions…the fact that I am sober, I’m not abusing alcohol anymore to take the pain away.”

He also shared the importance of patience in recovery: “There are times where I feel like I could be a lot further than I am, but I remind myself that everything isn’t built in a day.” Recovery takes time. It isn’t a sprint. Every step forward is brave and Stanley is building a freer future for himself. Stanley is still on his journey with us. As new challenges arise, we will continue to walk alongside him and provide the support he needs.

When asked what he would say to others in his community experiencing abuse, he said:

“Reach out for help, do it. Don’t let the comfort of your situation keep dragging you backwards…continue to be brave and your life will change.”

At Next Chapter, we recognise that every survivor’s experience is unique. For LGBTQ+ individuals, support must be inclusive and free from judgement.

We can provide:

· Specialist practitioners who listen.

· Safe, confidential accommodation.

· Emotional and practical support to rebuild confidence and independence.

· A space where people can be fully themselves, without fear.

Most importantly, we believe survivors. We validate their experiences and stand alongside them as they rebuild their lives.

Stanley’s story is just one of many. It’s a reminder that domestic abuse can affect anyone and that identity should never be used as a weapon.

If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please remember you are not alone. Support is available and we’re here when you’re ready.