Stephanie's Story

Hearing directly from survivors is one of the most powerful ways to understand the impact of domestic abuse and the importance of support. Their voices remind us of the reality of abuse, but also of the possibility of recovery. Recently, Stephanie contacted us to share her story and reflect on the support she received from Next Chapter 15 years ago.

"I moved into the refuge in 2011. I was just 17 years old. I had been moved by the police for my own safety after ending an abusive relationship with a man seven years older than me.

After the relationship ended, he stalked and harassed me and threatened my life. This included threats of abduction and taking an overdose while behind the wheel of a car with me in the back seat. There was a marker placed on my home and discussions took place about installing a panic alarm.

I didn't realise it then, but I was still a child, and that was an awful lot for me to deal with.

I turned 18 whilst living at the refuge and I'll never forget the presents left outside my door. My support worker, Lorna, was amazing and I think of her often even now. She inspired me to work in roles that help others. I eventually became a support worker myself, then worked in schools and now I'm a nursery manager and safeguarding lead.

I always try my best to advocate for others.

Unfortunately, I did go on to enter another abusive relationship. However, I escaped that many years ago and I still surprise myself with my resilience.

I still live with PTSD and anxiety because of everything I've experienced, but I'm so much stronger now than I was back then.

I have two wonderful boys who make life worth living.

I went back to college and completed my A-levels, then my degree, and now I'm studying for a Master's in Psychology whilst working and raising my boys.

Whilst I would like to thank everyone who helped me at the refuge all those years ago, I owe a special thanks to Lorna. You helped shape who I am today and I couldn't be more grateful.

I would also like to mention the businesses and people who donated to the refuge. I remember Sainsbury's donating flowers every week and they were genuinely a highlight. To anyone in a position to donate, no matter how big or small, please know that it is appreciated and it makes a difference.

I hope my story can give someone, someone like my 17-year-old self, hope that things really do get better.

I drew a picture for the refuge when I was there and wrote underneath it, 'I believe in better'. To this day, I still believe in and hope for better."

Stephanie's story reminds us that recovery is not always straightforward. The effects of domestic abuse can last long after the abuse has ended and healing rarely follows a simple path. Yet her journey is also a testament to her courage and the life-changing impact of support at the right time.

Today, Stephanie is helping others, raising her family, pursuing further education and continuing to advocate for those who need a voice. Her story shows that whilst abuse may be part of someone's past, it does not have to define their future.

Most importantly, her words offer hope to anyone experiencing abuse or rebuilding their life after it. Thank you, Stephanie, for sharing your story and reminding us all to ‘believe in better’.

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