Sasha's Story

In early 2024, Sasha self-referred to Next Chapter. From the very first conversation, it was clear that she was carrying an immense weight - fear, guilt, and a deep sense of feeling broken. As she described it at the time: “I didn’t know how to put myself together again.”

Sasha is a mother of four - three boys from a previous marriage, and a daughter with her abuser. She had worked as a prison officer in a high-security unit, supporting those convicted of serious crimes such as rape, murder, and terrorism. Despite her strength and professional experience, Sasha found herself in an overwhelming situation that no one should have to face alone.

When Sasha began working with us, she had already reported the abuse to the police and was in the process of applying for a Non-Molestation Order. Her abuser still had contact with their daughter, which caused significant distress - Sasha knew too well the kind of danger he posed.

Rebuilding Confidence and Control

Our work together focused on rebuilding Sasha’s confidence and helping her understand the dynamics of abuse. She carried deep guilt, particularly about the abuse her sons experienced - even though she hadn’t known about it at the time. A major part of our work was helping Sasha recognise that she was not to blame. That shift - from guilt to understanding - was the beginning of her empowerment.

We supported Sasha in raising safeguarding concerns with Social Care - four in total. While each was initially closed, the pattern that emerged formed crucial evidence for court proceedings. This ultimately helped to secure a decision to stop all contact between the perpetrator and their daughter.

We also worked closely with police. After giving her initial statement, Sasha felt she hadn’t said everything she needed to. She was ready to let it go, but we encouraged her to speak up again, in her own time - and supported her in arranging a second statement. This became a powerful step in reclaiming her voice.

Throughout the process, Sasha was guided to report every breach of the Non-Molestation Order, no matter how “minor” it seemed. There were moments when she felt like giving up. In those times, it was our role to remind her of her strength and the importance of seeking justice - not just for herself, but for her children too.

A Space to Be Heard

What stood out most about Sasha was her openness. She allowed herself to feel - every emotion, from rage to vulnerability - and she trusted that our space was a safe one. That trust became a foundation for her growth. Having her feelings validated by someone who understood the dynamics of abuse helped Sasha begin to trust herself again.

We worked together through topics like:

• Red flags in relationships

• Boundaries

• The cycle of abuse

• Building healthy relationships

By the end of our support, the change in Sasha was powerful and clear. She was no longer the broken person who had first called - she was informed, empowered, and grounded in her own strength.

The Impact on Practice

Sasha’s journey also had a profound effect on her Domestic Abuse Practitioner (DAP).

Her feedback reminded them of the real, lasting impact we can have.

Supporting Sasha also helped her DAP grow professionally. They became more confident in “elegantly challenging” professionals when needed - something they had done before but now do with greater clarity and assurance.

Several months after we completed our work together, Sasha reached out with a message of thanks. It was a powerful reminder: the support we offer isn’t just about getting through a crisis. It’s about transformation, healing, and laying the foundation for a safer future.