Founded by Lenore Walker

It’s important to recognise these cycles and understand that for each time you are trapped within a cycle you come out the other end having lost a little bit of who you once were.

Over time (this can be hard to notice when it’s happening to you so don’t blame yourself) you become entwined and even more emotionally attached. You may even feel pity for your abuser and stick at it because you want to help them. This is called Co-dependency. In its simplest terms, a co-dependent relationship is when one partner needs the other partner, who in turn, needs to be needed. This circular relationship is the basis of what experts refer to when they describe the “cycle” of co-dependency.

The abuse cycle is a cleverly orchestrated process. It is designed to be this way by your abuser. They want you to feel lost, they want you to doubt yourself, then you will ‘need’ them even more. This feeds their ever-desperate ego.

It makes sense, right? You’re not going crazy; these are the cycles we were talking about and the reasons why it’s so hard to break free.

Why doesn’t she just leave?? You’ve heard this many times before, I’m sure. Maybe from your own friends and family even!

There are 100 other barriers to face when attempting to leave an abusive relationship, and this cycle is just one of them! You’ve reached out now – you’ve taken that first step which is something to work from and something to be proud of. The first step in beginning to re-build your self esteem begins here....