What made you want to work supporting victims of DA?  

Previously I had done a degree in Early Childhood Studies and I completed my Masters in Childhood Studies so I’m really passionate about working with children.  

When I done my degree and masters I was really passionate about children receiving all of their rights and law. Then I saw this job and I thought it was perfect because it will include law (which I love) and it’s still helping and supporting children and Mum’s.  

I also get to work with children on a 1:1 basis and a lot of that includes play and doing work around things like feelings, wishes and confidence. It linked in well with my previous jobs and I was quite excited – it was a smooth transition from what I had done previously.  

 

Have you always wanted to do this and if not, what did you want to do when you were growing up?  

I think with jobs like this you don’t really know that they are there until you look for them really.  

Originally, I wanted to be a primary school teacher which is why I done my degree. But after I done my degree I completely changed my mind and I thought “I definitely don’t want to do that”. Then I went into the charity sector and ended up working for a few different charities which I enjoyed, supporting children and parents. That’s how I got into it. 

I did think about social work at one point as well, so kind of all over really. Then I eased into this job now and I’m really passionate about this area, I love reading about it and learning more. I’ve learnt a lot more in regards to children and trauma, that I had never touch upon in my masters.  

 

What personal qualities do you think you need to do this job?  

You’ve got to have time for your clients and make sure you listen to them. Having empathy is really important and being respectful, compassionate and supportive – it’s almost about being that ear and helping them make their own choices about what they want.  

 

What is the most inspiring thing you have seen with someone you have been supporting?  

There are so many things that you see and sometimes it can be the little things. One of our projects is called You and Me Mum which focuses a lot around strategies for post domestic abuse. Sometimes it’s seeing a Mum from the beginning and seeing the difference in their confidence and self-esteem and how empowered they have become to make their own choices.  

I have one client that has done this and she is now really listening to her child and it made that relationship better. The Mum now understands the triggers due to the trauma that the child experienced.  

 

What would you say to your best friend if they were experiencing DA?  

Is that if they didn’t know or do know that they were a victim?  

 

That’s really interesting because some people might not know they are a victim, do they?  

No. I think it would be just going through that non-judgemental conversation with them and helping them identify if they think they are in a domestic abuse relationship. I would let them know that there are people out there, they have their friends and family and other professionals. There are 24hr domestic abuse helplines that can help whenever they need it.  

I would let them know that domestic abuse is not okay and it isn’t the victim’s fault and I would tell her that we could make them feel safe and help them out that abusive relationship.