What made you want to work supporting victims of DA? 

So, it’s been something that has been quite close to my heart for a long time. I never imagined I would be working in this field if you had asked me a few years ago, my eyes lit up as I saw the job advert and since actually being in the roll it’s really cemented for me exactly why I wanted to work here. 

I think for me, one of my main drives is everybody deserves to be loved and to feel supported. We are taking one of the most purist emotions and unfortunately some people are taking advantage of that. Everyone deserves to be shown kindness, I suppose that’s my main motivator really- helping people to feel worthy of that.  

 

What personal qualities do you think you need to do this job?  

I think for me the main one is to care. I don’t think there is any hard or fast rules or any specific qualifications that you definitely need to have to be able to do this, I think when your hearts in this role, as in you care and are passionate for the case - it pushes you to want to support to the best of your ability. I feel it’s important to listen to people and actually listen, so you’re able to see things from their perspective and not being judgemental.  

 

What is the most inspiring thing you have seen with someone you have been supporting?  

I don’t think this is for a specific person, but I think just with all of clients the change from that very first phone call and if we look six months down the line their life has done a complete 180. No matter how many changes (how big or small they are) they are working towards living their ideal version of what they wanted to happen, and I just find it amazing to watch them grow. 

They show so much dedication to stick with it, especially on the bad days and they keep pushing on – I think it’s incredible to see the change. I had a client that even the way their voice sound changed; I’ve even had a client say the way they walked changed. It’s just incredible!  

 

What would you say to your best friend if they were experiencing DA?  

I find this one really hard to answer…  

 

I guess because if it’s a best friend it's going to feel more personal, but you’ll have your professional hat on because it’s domestic abuse and you help victim’s day in day out, so I can see that being quite tough… 

100%, I think I ended up going down the route of a more professional approach of something similar that I would say to a client. I would validate that it’s going to be tough, I often refer to it as an emotional rollercoaster, but I would say that I will be there every step of the way to walk alongside her on the good days but especially the bad.  

 

I would say that she deserves to be treated with nothing but kindness and respect and that she may not feel it now, but she is a very strong lady. I’d say that step by step when she feels ready, we can work together to get through this.