Resettlement

We know that when you leave refuge it can feel very scary. We also know that you will have worked with your support worker to make sure that you are really ready to leave and start the next chapter of your life and you will be so much stronger than perhaps you think you are.

We don't want you to feel that you have lost the support and the umbrella of safety that our refuge offers. Our lovely resettlement worker will make contact with you in the weeks leading up to you leaving refuge.

She offers support to our service-users moving on from refuge accommodation, providing practical support which can include applying for furniture grants, helping you set up direct debits, and even helping you organise your moving day. She also offers vital emotional support in the lead-up to leaving refuge, accompanying you to house-viewings when they are local, signposting to activities within the local community and talking through any concerns you might have about moving on.

Please click here to read a blog about the day in the life of a resettlement worker.

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Lorna's Interview for International Women's Day!

What better way to celebrate IWD 2021 than by sharing some amazing stories and information from our staff. Please click to read Lorna's, our Refuge Accommodation & Complex Needs Manager, interview to find out what made her want to work supporting victims of domestic abuse!
Women Who Kill

As the culmination of 4 years of research by the Women's Centre for Justice into the criminal justice response to women who kill abusive men, this offers thought provoking insights into how the law, and how it is applied, prevents women from accessing justice...
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It is so important to raise awareness of sexual abuse, the many forms it can take and why many women subconsciously accept the abuse as normal in their relationship.
Sexual Abuse Awareness Week

Rape and sexual assaults do happen in relationships and if something isn’t comfortable or not wanted then regardless of relationship status should not happen.

How to move forward from loss and grief

These are all perfectly natural feelings and reactions to loss and grief and some may even compare it to a bereavement. Even if you don’t feel that way at all you may have been left feeling empty and confused or angry. We might constantly be bargaining with ourselves still or find that depression has taken over. We all deal with loss in our own individual ways and this is what makes each of us so unique. This is perfectly normal too.
How does domestic abuse differ in other cultures?

The actions of individuals are influenced by the norms, values, language, and other cultural factors that are like the dust in the air that surrounds everyone. These cultural factors are ingrained in us from the day we are born, and can play a role in either ending or perpetuating domestic abuse.
Sexual Abuse Awareness Week

Rape and sexual assaults do happen in relationships and if something isn’t comfortable or not wanted then regardless of relationship status should not happen.
Special Place in the Home

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The Role of an Independent Domestic Violence Advisor

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We know from speaking to our clients, that the lockdown has meant that some perpetrators may not be able to feed their addictions, or they may be over feeding their addictions due to boredom or frustration and this in turn will be affecting their mental health. There is so much research about the dangerous cocktail of this ‘toxic trio’ (the combination of domestic abuse, substance misuse and mental health issues) as it leads to emotions being intensified which in turn drives behaviours.
Covid-19 - what are we doing?

As part of our commitment to individuals experiencing domestic abuse and their families who are worried about them - we’re doing our very best to make sure that we are always available to respond and help. Your safety and wellbeing is of paramount importance to us and we are prioritising our services in relation to safety and support above everything else.
Me, Myself and Abuser….

Slowly I started to realised that this would never change. That my prince charming doesn’t exist, it was just a mask and a trap to lure me in. I started looking for a way out. I couldn’t tell my friends and family the truth, they would judge me. They would ask me questions like “why didn’t you leave before?”, “why did you stay?” and “why did you have a baby with him?”. They would never understand that the hope my prince charming would return was stronger that any rational thinking.
Help in an emergency

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My abuser has given me…. Trauma Bonding

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